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Did you know that in a survey of 100,000
Playboy readers, 47 percent of the male respondents
and 61 percent of the female respondents admitted
to having tried anal intercourse!
And in spite of these high figures,
anal sex remains one of the most taboo area of human
eroticism, even though second only to the actual genital
organs of males and females themselves in terms of
the sexual satisfaction it actually provides.
So what is it about anal sex that you
should know?
1. Turn this taboo
into an accepted aspect of your daily/weekly love
making!
Anal sex is a source of great and diversified
pleasure! Why should you deprive yourself of
it!
Start probing your partner's anus (or
your own!) during oral sex or masturbation.
Insert your finger (well lubricated!) gently inside
the anus and push gently. You can also use a
whole variety of sex toys, including vibrators and
but plugs but remember to be gentle. Your partner
needs to be completely relaxed before and during the
anal penetration.
2. Anal sex?
It hurts like hell!
Not necessarily. Careful lovers
know that the anal tube is surrounded by powerful
muscles which like any muscle can be stretched.
And when "done" properly, anal sex can turn
this center of perceived pain into a source of great
pleasure.
The greater your sense of comfort with
the idea of anal sex and the greater your relaxation,
the greater that pleasure will become.
Incorporate anal exploration as part
of your sexual games. Use lubrication, and above
all, use patience. Under stress, anal muscles
will go into spasm, resulting in pain.
Listen to your partner. No means
NO so wait until he/she is ready to proceed.
3. It hurt last
time. It will hurt again.
Some people are more sensitive than
others. It may take you longer to learn how
to get comfortable with anal manipulation. Learn
to relax. An ideal place to experiment with
anal sex is in the bath or in the shower.
Use anal stimulation as part of your
masturbation game. Get your partner used to
this new form of pleasure without forcing actual penetration.
Sometimes the penetration is the action that causes
the most concern. Eliminate the prospects of
an immediate anal penetration and concentrate instead
on anal stimulation. If you limit your initial
anal exploration to the outer edges of the anus, and
"work" your way in, never going deeper than
half an inch inside the rectum, this will in turn
mean that your partner can concentrate on the pleasure
he/she is actually receiving rather than on the fear
that an ensuing anal penetration may cause pain.
In some people, "external"
anal stimulation with slight insertion of a finger
or object is all they want to experiment with and
some do not go over that threshold.
In others of course, anal stimulation
is only a prelude the an actual penetration!
The rule here is to take your time,
and make sure there is no pain.
4. Internal sphincter
vs. external sphincter
If you insert your finger about half
an inch inside your anus, you will be able to feel
two muscles by pressing your fingertip against the
side. These muscles are separated by less than
a half an inch
The external sphincter can be easily
controlled. After you have inserted a finger,
try to contract and release the muscles pressing your
fingers and you will know which of the two is the
external sphincter.
The other muscle on the other hand,
the internal sphincter is controlled by the involuntary
or autonomic part of the nervous system.
Fear, anxiety, danger are factors that
determine the reaction of the internal sphincter,
causing it to contract automatically.
You can learn how to relax this muscle
by inserting a finger inside your anus and keeping
it there until the internal sphincter relaxes.
5. Anal stimulation:
more than one kind of pleasure.
The most sensitive area of your anus
is the opening which is richly endowed with nerve
endings and which can provide you with all kinds of
anal pleasures.
Beyond the opening, the rectum, like
the vagina has several nerve endings tube which can
provide other types of sensations.
Amongst them the filling of being "filled"
and "penetrated" is one that causes pleasure
both on a physical and cerebral level.
In men, the prostate can be an intense
source of pleasure when in contact with a finger,
an object or a penis. The prostrate is located
beyond the rectal wall, a few inches in and towards
the front of the body and can easily be stimulated
with the result that orgasm can be reached faster,
stronger or in some case, separately from actual penile
manipulation .
The "Bulb" is located at the
edges of the anal opening, towards the penis and is
a source of pleasure.
Learn to trace that part of the body
that starts just underneath the testicles and ends
at the opening of the anus, where the bulb resides.
Beyond the physical pleasures that
anal sex provide, psychological or cerebral pleasure
is an important aspect of the whole act.
6. Can I come
through anal stimulation?
Anal orgasms are experienced by a minority
of men and women.
For others, orgasms can be achieved
if lovers enter the realms of their anal fantasies
and become the attention of their own anal stimulation.
Do not look for an anal orgasm. Chances are
you will be disappointed. Instead, immerse yourself
entirely into the anal fantasy, learn to enjoy stimulation
of each part of the anus, the rectum and the prostrate
and your pleasure will be enhanced considerably. The
convergence of anal sex with regular sex, when coupled
with the emotional stimulation associated with anal
sex can greatly enhance orgasms.
7. Diet and anus?
A diet high in fiber will ensure healthy
bowel movement which will in turn provide an irritation
free environment for anal penetration.
8. Concerns of
hygiene and safety
The rectum is not straight but can bend
sometimes by p to 90 degrees. Therefore it is
important that you experiment by inserting soft objects
from a variety of angles and body positions.
The object should have a flared base so that it does
not slip into the rectum and become irretrievable
should you loose your grip.
Lubricant must be used at all times.
Avoid chemical additives.
Remember, feces are not stored inside
the rectum, except just before a bowel movement.
For those of you concerned with cleanliness, use anal
douching prior to anal sex.
For others, the idea of dirtiness is
an additional ingredient into the satisfaction they
derive from anal sex.
9. My husband
wants me to give him anal sex. Is he a sissy?
For many, the ideal of anal penetration
relates to an act of submission, or total surrender
of once being to the other party.
This is particularly true with many
males who are not submissive by nature but for whom,
the act of letting another party penetrate them anally
is a submission.
Whether it is an expression of power
or not, anal sex is a great source of pleasure.
10. Is Anal Sex
dangerous
This is what society would have you
believe as well as being against nature, immoral etc...
When practiced between consenting adults
who follow the above steps and do not use anal sex
as a way to inflict physical or emotional pain onto
each other, anal sex is anything but dangerous.
However, diseases can be transmitted
through anal sex. Of more concern, AIDS is known
to pass from the semen of blood of an infected person
into the bloodstream through any tiny break in the
rectal tissue.
Likewise, rimming, (Oral Anal) by its
nature brings the mouth into contact with bacteria
and can also be a source of infection.
Therefore, intercourse and rimming
must not become casual and lovers should use condoms
in the case of intercourse or a latex sheet in the
case of rimming.
It goes without saying that a monogamous
couple not infected with aids and taking elementary
precautionary measures are amongst those for whom
the risk of infection is greatly reduced.
When practiced with care, anal sex can
be a source of intense pleasure for both men and women.
Learn to implement our advise into your
lovemaking and you will find anal sex to be extremely
rewarding.
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